Oh boy, I made a mistake, a huge one! You know how you know in the back of your head that what you're about to do is wrong but it isn't as present or as strong of a feeling as it should be so you just do it anyway, and it results in you making the biggest mistake of your life? Well, I felt that way about 3 weeks ago and I felt the same way not so long ago because the consequences of my actions revealed themselves in the form of a really angry person bashing me with negative words.
I'm not going to lie. It hurts when someone insults you, but maybe I deserved it. I try not to be verbally violent to people to make myself feel better because guess what? At the end you don't feel any better. It doesn't make things any different! The situation happened, period. So I learned to deal with things differently. I could have responded in the same way, just as angry and rude (that's what most people would do) but I proved myself better. I proved to myself that I don't have to act the same way. Instead, I apologized. I admitted my mistake and apologized for it sincerely. And hey, that's the best I could have done because at least I know in my heart that I was truly sorry and that this person eventually will realize that I meant it.
A very old version of me would have been verbally violent too, would have dealt with the situation badly and consequently would have put herself down resulting in a possible depression (again!). So, life and Dale Carnegie (never thought that I would use his principles without even intending to) taught me different. They taught me that nothing good comes out of you responding so angrily to someone and dealing poorly with the situation. I learned that if we make a mistake we have to be the first ones to admit it instead of lying more and putting this big defensive wall. It doesn't help at all.
So, this is my advice to you: be humble and honest with your actions. Don't let pride take over you. If you made a mistake, apologize. Go on. Give it a try. There's no point in denying it and creating an argument when you clearly were at fault. Just admit you did wrong, apologize, and everyone will eventually move on from that. At the end, it's the other person's problem if they want to keep being stuck in the past when they can't do anything to change it. You just do your part, the rest is up to everyone else.
I'm not going to lie. It hurts when someone insults you, but maybe I deserved it. I try not to be verbally violent to people to make myself feel better because guess what? At the end you don't feel any better. It doesn't make things any different! The situation happened, period. So I learned to deal with things differently. I could have responded in the same way, just as angry and rude (that's what most people would do) but I proved myself better. I proved to myself that I don't have to act the same way. Instead, I apologized. I admitted my mistake and apologized for it sincerely. And hey, that's the best I could have done because at least I know in my heart that I was truly sorry and that this person eventually will realize that I meant it.
A very old version of me would have been verbally violent too, would have dealt with the situation badly and consequently would have put herself down resulting in a possible depression (again!). So, life and Dale Carnegie (never thought that I would use his principles without even intending to) taught me different. They taught me that nothing good comes out of you responding so angrily to someone and dealing poorly with the situation. I learned that if we make a mistake we have to be the first ones to admit it instead of lying more and putting this big defensive wall. It doesn't help at all.
So, this is my advice to you: be humble and honest with your actions. Don't let pride take over you. If you made a mistake, apologize. Go on. Give it a try. There's no point in denying it and creating an argument when you clearly were at fault. Just admit you did wrong, apologize, and everyone will eventually move on from that. At the end, it's the other person's problem if they want to keep being stuck in the past when they can't do anything to change it. You just do your part, the rest is up to everyone else.